This article provides practical, biblically grounded advice for students battling pornography. Key strategies include seeking God and trusted friends for support, taking a digital detox to reset habits, using an alarm clock to break phone dependency, and employing the 15-minute rule to redirect temptation. The guide stresses the value of confession, repentance, and enjoying life as God designed it, aiming to help students build lifelong habits of purity and find satisfaction beyond fleeting temptations.
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Inquiring of the Lord
In this milestone message marking First Stone Ministries' fiftieth year, Executive Director Laura Leigh Stanlake reflects on God's sustained faithfulness and calls the ministry to seek His direction with intentionality and humility. Drawing on the cautionary examples of Israel's covenant with the Gibeonites and Rehoboam's ill-fated counsel, she emphasizes the importance of prayer, wise counsel, and patient discernment over quick decisions. As First Stone looks ahead, the ministry's desire remains simple — to depend on the Lord and follow where He leads.
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What is Changing, and Why
Marking 50 years of ministry, First Stone Ministries announces a thoughtful evolution in how it communicates and ministers. While remaining firmly grounded in biblical conviction and the belief that healing is found in Jesus Christ alone, the ministry is adopting warmer, more accessible language, refreshing its website, and shifting internally toward Scripture-based identity formation rather than self-assessment. The goal is clear — to meet people where they are, welcome their whole story, and walk with them patiently toward freedom and wholeness in Christ.
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Holding Love and Truth When It’s Challenging
In this thoughtful article from First Stone Ministries, the author — a parent personally navigating a child's gender identity questions — examines how cultural pressure has redefined empathy as agreement rather than understanding. Drawing on Romans 1, 1 Corinthians 13, and the cautionary example of Aaron, the piece calls believers to hold love and truth together without yielding to coercive demands. True empathy, the author concludes, does not affirm what is contrary to God's will — it points people to Jesus.
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2026 Spring Newsletter
The Spring 2026 issue of First Stone Ministries' newsletter marks the organization's 50th anniversary with a theme of prayerful, Spirit-led change. Laura Leigh Stanlake reflects on the danger of moving without inquiring of the Lord, while Jim Farrington addresses the cultural redefinition of empathy and the pressure families face to affirm LGBTQ+ identities. The newsletter also announces a refreshed website, updated ministry language, and a renewed internal focus on Scripture-based identity formation — all grounded in the unchanging truth of Jesus Christ.
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Breaking Free from the Fear of Man
“Breaking Free from the Fear of Man” defines the fear of man as an approval addiction that shapes decisions, emotions, and even obedience to God. Using Proverbs 29:25 and biblical examples like Saul and Aaron, the article shows how people-pleasing derails leaders and everyday believers alike. Stanlake traces roots in childhood messages, social pressure, personality, and pain, then outlines steps toward freedom: preferring God, knowing identity in Christ, recognizing triggers, inviting accountability, and growing in community that fears the Lord together.
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The Problem with Unforgiveness
“The Problem with Unforgiveness” warns that refusing to forgive carries severe spiritual consequences, as Jesus teaches in Matthew 6:14–15. Unforgiveness blocks prayer, fosters spiritual dryness, opens doors to the enemy, and reflects a graceless heart. Drawing from Acts 8:22–23 and June Hunt’s Forgiveness, the article details harmful traits—bitterness, pride, judgment, vengefulness—that poison relationships with God and others. By contrast, forgiveness reflects God’s nature, breaks captivity to sin, and restores freedom, intimacy, and spiritual vitality in the believer’s life.
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The Great Pronoun Debate: Should I Use Someone’s Preferred Pronouns?
Laura Smalts argues that using preferred pronouns contrary to biological sex conflicts with God’s intentional design of male and female in creation. She highlights purposes for sex distinctions—fruitfulness, complementary gifting, and whole‑body sexual differentiation—alongside research on the brain’s rapid recognition of sex. Smalts contends affirming cross‑sex identity harms truth and obscures God’s glory reflected differently in men and women. Practically, she advises kindness, restraint with pronouns, using given names cautiously, asking questions like Jesus, and prioritizing respectful, gospel‑centered conversations.
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Testimonies on YouTube
Curated testimonies on our YouTube channel. We hope you are blessed by these.
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Porn & Sex are Women's Issues Too!
Host Garry Ingraham talks with guest Laura Leigh Stanlake.
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The 5 Streams: Differing Responses to LGBTQ
“The 5 Streams: Differing Responses to LGBTQ” by Linda Seiler, PhD, analyzes five major Christian perspectives—Condemnation, Affirmation, Accommodation, Mortification, and Transformation—on same-sex attraction and gender identity. Each stream is explained with its theological premise, understanding of sexual orientation’s origin, and practical pastoral care. The guide clarifies why views diverge, highlights representative ministries and authors, and contrasts outcomes for individuals seeking change. This resource empowers churches and readers to discern biblical truth and offer informed, compassionate support for those wrestling with LGBTQ questions.
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2015
Recommended Books: Youth
This youth-focused reading list from First Stone Ministries provides young men and women with age-appropriate, biblically grounded resources for navigating sexuality, temptation, and identity. Stephen Arterburn and Shannon Ethridge offer gender-specific guidance on guarding the mind, heart, and body in a sex-saturated world, while Scott Davis's DVD resource opens an honest, compassionate conversation with young people about same-sex attraction. Together these titles equip teens and young adults with truth, practical strategies, and hope for walking in purity.
Nov 12
2011
Healthy Sexuality for Today's Generation
“Healthy Sexuality for Today’s Generation” explores how biblical principles can guide young people in navigating modern sexual pressures. The article emphasizes God’s original design for sexuality, encouraging spiritual growth and personal transformation over cultural trends. It provides practical advice for overcoming temptations and relational challenges, highlighting the importance of community support, scriptural truth, and the Holy Spirit’s healing. First Stone Ministries aims to equip individuals, parents, and churches to model and teach sexual integrity, fostering hope and restoration rooted in Christian faith.
“Teens, Porn and Solo Sex: Sex Talk in a Sex-Crazed Society” warns of the dangers of early exposure to pornography and masturbation, highlighting their deep, long-term impact. The article tackles the misconceptions and shame surrounding these topics in Christian communities, urging honest conversation, biblical understanding, and accountability. Teens are encouraged to seek genuine intimacy with God and others, recognizing that fulfillment is found in Christ—not in false intimacy or secret habits. The piece offers hope for healing and purity.
Mar 30
2002
Breaking the Silence on the "M" Word
“Breaking the Silence on the ‘M’ Word” confronts the stigma and silence around masturbation among Christians. Through real-life testimony and pastoral reflection, the article reveals how shame and secrecy empower harmful habits, arguing that darkness leads to isolation and hopelessness. By encouraging open discussion and reliance on God’s grace, First Stone Ministries urges readers to move beyond embarrassment, embrace compassionate guidance, and seek hope through biblical principles and spiritual support for overcoming struggles with sexuality.