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“Keeping the Conversation Open with Your Child” equips Christian parents to respond biblically and with compassion when a child shares life choices that conflict with their faith. Offering practical and spiritual guidance—asking forgiveness for reactive words, praying for humility, processing grief, guarding against idolatry, and leaning on God’s Word—it encourages maintaining respectful dialogue while trusting the Holy Spirit’s work. Through patience, emotional honesty, community support, and reliance on God’s promises, parents can preserve connection, witness faithfully, and grow spiritually in challenging seasons.

This expanded reading list from First Stone Ministries offers a comprehensive collection of resources addressing homosexuality, sexual brokenness, and identity from a biblical perspective. Authors include Joe Dallas, Andrew Comiskey, Leanne Payne, Robert Gagnon, and Stephen Black, among others. Titles span personal testimonies of freedom, guides for counselors and pastors, explorations of masculine identity, scholarly biblical analysis, and practical tools for those seeking healing. Together they form an invaluable library for individuals, families, and ministry leaders navigating these complex issues.

Differing Views on Christianity, Identity and Homosexuality where there is an onslaught of the promotion of "gay Christianity" in the Church today. The differing view chart reveals the differences in belief and approach and is helpful for those who need to understand and be warned of those who promote false teaching, or lacking in fullness for HOPE.

In this in-depth discussion, Stephen Black and M.D. Perkins dissect the “gay Christian” movement, highlighting its theological errors and the resulting spiritual confusion within the church. They address how psychological concepts like sexual orientation have been adopted as immutable identity markers, contradicting biblical teachings on transformation and sanctification. The presenters critique the influence of affirming theology, including “Side B” celibacy, and stress the importance of biblical truth, historic Christian doctrine, and real-life testimonies of change as central to compassionate, effective ministry.

Aaron Girod grew up in church but secretly struggled with same-sex attraction, eventually abandoning faith for a homosexual relationship and methamphetamine addiction. After being struck by a vehicle and hospitalized with a traumatic brain injury, a miraculous moment in his hospital room — witnessed by his mother and Stephen Black — marked the beginning of his restoration. Through Living Waters, ongoing discipleship at First Stone Ministries, and genuine surrender to Christ, Aaron found the lasting freedom and healing he had sought his entire life.

“Dangerous Affirmation: The Threat of ‘Gay Christianity’” by M.D. Perkins exposes how efforts to reconcile Christian faith with homosexuality are reshaping theology, biblical interpretation, and church life. The book reveals strategies used by LGBT activists—rethinking doctrine, identity, and the meaning of church—to influence even conservative congregations. Perkins aims to equip believers with biblical clarity, urging steadfastness amid shifting values and controversial teachings. The message calls Christians to recognize spiritual challenges and respond with conviction, compassion, and commitment to God’s Word.

There have many studies to try and prove that people are born gay. NONE have given results, although much speculation in the media and from Hollywood since Simon LeVay's terrible study results released in 1991. A new study of a Human Genome-Wide Association Study of the largest sample ever to date, almost 500,000 reveal NO ONE IS BORN GAY!

“In His Image” is a documentary created to help churches navigate pressing cultural questions about gender, sexuality, and Christian faith. The film addresses questions like “Can you be gay and be a Christian?” and “Did God make me this way?” by combining personal testimonies, scriptural teaching, and scientific insights. Produced by American Family Studios, it seeks to confront the rise of LGBT-affirming theology, advocate a biblical approach to sexuality, and provide practical, compassionate support for those wrestling with sexual and relational struggles.

In this video testimony posted by First Stone Ministries, Stephen Black recounts how childhood victimization and adolescent experiences led him into a homosexual lifestyle marked by compulsion and confusion. Drawing from his personal journey, Stephen describes how faith in Jesus Christ brought genuine transformation and freedom. His testimony serves as a message of hope for those struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction, pointing to the power of the Gospel to heal and restore a life of holiness.

“Reconciliation” follows the powerful true story of a gay son seeking to mend his fractured relationship with his devout Christian father. The film documents the emotional and spiritual journey both undertake as they confront painful memories, beliefs, and misunderstandings. Through candid dialogue and faith-driven introspection, the pair navigate conflict and explore the possibilities of healing and renewed relationship. The documentary ultimately highlights hope, mutual respect, and the transformative power of love and faith in overcoming even the deepest relational divides.

“How Do You Like Me Now” is a documentary designed to support families encountering the emotional and relational challenges when a loved one comes out as gay. Narrated by Joe Dallas, it offers biblical guidance and compassionate insight for parents, siblings, spouses, and children. The film addresses feelings of betrayal, relationship strain, and the difficulty of maintaining love and faith. Featuring candid testimonies from individuals who have experienced this journey, it encourages families to respond with grace while upholding biblical truth.

In this video testimony from First Stone Ministries, Andrew Franklin recounts growing up as a praised church kid while secretly hiding deep shame over his effeminate identity. After coming out as gay and hitting rock bottom in New York City, Andrew surrendered to Jesus Christ and discovered for the first time that change was possible. Discipled into his true identity as a son of God, Andrew now devotes his life to speaking identity and destiny into other men — his greatest weakness becoming his greatest calling.

“Such Were Some of You” is a feature-length documentary showcasing the personal stories of over 29 people who left the gay lifestyle after experiencing profound change through faith in Jesus Christ. The film combines these testimonies with insights from theologians and PhDs, exploring the development of same-sex attraction, the process of leaving homosexuality, and the emotional and spiritual healing that followed. Inspired by 1 Corinthians 6:11, the documentary emphasizes that genuine transformation and healing are possible through Christ’s grace and power.

For people desiring to grow in their walk with Christ and experience freedom from sexual and relational brokenness, the Upper Room Community offers Christ-centered mentoring, discipleship and an intentional residential community. Same-sex attraction stems from relational wounds and dysfunction, and many participants experience healing and growth in the URC through the new, healthy relationships God brings together.

A curated reading list for parents and family members of those navigating same-sex attraction or sexual brokenness.

This women's reading list from First Stone Ministries brings together a carefully chosen collection of books addressing female same-sex attraction, emotional and sexual brokenness, and God's design for womanhood. Authors include Janet Boynes, Jeanette Howard, Anne Paulk, and Janelle Hallman, among others. Titles range from personal testimonies of freedom from lesbianism to comprehensive counseling resources, guides to healthy female friendship, and explorations of biblical femininity — offering women and those who minister to them a rich foundation for healing and restoration.

In “Melissa’s Story,” Melissa Ingraham describes being raised in a religious yet emotionally distant family, leading to anger, identity struggles, and eventual same-sex attraction. After an intense but brief lesbian relationship, she experienced deep spiritual conflict. A Christian conference became a turning point, prompting her to surrender her sexuality to Christ. Through support groups and counseling, she discovered forgiveness, embraced her femininity, and found healing. Ultimately, Melissa’s journey brought her marriage, children, restored family bonds, and a fulfilling career in Christian counseling.

After the ruling of the Supreme Court on June 26, 2015 Laura Leigh Stanlake, Director of Women's Ministries attended a local church service where a pastor gave a message in responding to so-called "gay marriage". There was a problem! Homosexual identity and Christianity were being integrated as one legitimate identity-- a "gay Christian" identity. Laura responded with this article in the Winter 2015 First Stone Newsletter.

Andrew Franklin shares his journey of leaving a life of partying, alcoholism, and same-sex relationships after a desperate turning point in New York City. In crisis, he turned to the Bible and experienced what he describes as a profound encounter with Jesus, who offered him forgiveness and hope. With help from Christian mentors and support groups, Andrew gradually found healing from past wounds and embraced a new identity. He is now married, a father, and serves as an associate pastor.

In “HOPE 2013 Testimonies of Jim & Debbie Venice,” Jim recounts his formative years shaped by family instability, fatherlessness, and bullying, leading to same-sex attraction despite deep Christian faith. Marriage to Debbie didn’t resolve his struggles, resulting in divorce and years away from the church. After a personal encounter with God, Jim experienced forgiveness and lasting transformation. He and Debbie remarried, found deeper healing as a family, and today minister hope to others facing relational and identity challenges.

In “HOPE 2013,” Jason Thompson recounts his journey with same-sex attraction from adolescence, grappling with fear, confusion, and rejection within his faith community. After a failed attempt to “pray away” his struggles and a suicide attempt, he found hope at Portland Fellowship, where he learned God’s plan was not instant change but deep restoration and community. With time, healing, and faith, Jason built a new life—marrying, raising children, and now ministering to others seeking similar hope and transformation.

First Stone Ministries’ article explains their departure from Exodus International, citing theological and leadership shifts in Exodus that conflicted with biblical convictions. Choosing to resign in 2012, First Stone joined the newly formed Restored Hope Network, a coalition dedicated to traditional Christian sexual ethics and transformational ministry. The piece affirms their ongoing mission: proclaiming freedom from unwanted same-sex attractions through Christ, providing a safe and supportive environment, and collaborating with like-minded ministries to equip the church and serve those seeking healing.

In “Everyone Needs This Ministry – A Letter from a Pastor,” ordained minister Jason Murray endorses First Stone Ministries for its unwavering biblical fidelity and compassionate outreach to the broken. He recounts personal transformation through their confidential, Scripture-based counseling and leadership. The ministry enabled growth in grace and holiness, providing what Murray’s pastorate alone could not. After years engaged with First Stone, he urges all Christians to know and support ministries like this for genuine healing and maturity.

In "God's Call to the Lesbian," Anne shares how childhood trauma and identity struggles led to same-sex attraction. Despite involvement in the LGBTQ+ community, she felt unfulfilled. After a spiritual experience in college, she embraced Christianity, pursued healing through counseling, and left the lesbian lifestyle. Though her marriage later ended, Anne affirms that lasting change is possible through faith in Jesus Christ. Her story offers hope for others seeking transformation through God.

In this video, Kent Paris candidly recounts enduring sexual abuse from his mother and emotional rejection by his father, leading to confusion about his identity and years of homosexual relationships1. After an intense period of brokenness, drug use, and spiritual searching, Kent found healing through Christianity and therapy. Christ’s love, wise pastoral guidance, and setting healthy boundaries empowered him to overcome the past, marry, and raise children. Kent now counsels others, sharing hope for freedom and restoration through faith and support.

In this article, Stephen Black calls on Church leaders to reject the growing trend of affirming "gay Christian" identities and same-sex attraction as legitimate orientations. He argues that genuine love requires both mercy and justice — not compromise — and that true grace is always transformational. Drawing on Scripture and the example of Christ, Black warns that embracing cheap grace theology ultimately harms the very people the Church claims to love, leaving them in spiritual bondage rather than leading them to freedom.

This powerful poem tells the story of a boy whose absent father left a deep emotional void, driving him to seek love and affirmation from other men — and eventually into the homosexual lifestyle. After finding no lasting peace through relationships or political activism, he dies alone. The poem closes with an urgent appeal to the Church to respond not with condemnation but with the compassion of Christ, reminding believers that genuine love has the power to heal and restore.

“This is the Way God Made Me: A Scientific Examination of Homosexuality and the ‘Gay Gene’” challenges the popular belief in a genetic cause for homosexuality. The article reviews the outcomes of the Human Genome Project, noting the absence of evidence for a definitive “gay gene.” First Stone Ministries examines cultural narratives, summarizes peer-reviewed research, and highlights the biblical understanding of sexuality. The article ultimately calls readers to reject genetic determinism and affirms hope for change through faith in Christ.

Laura Leigh Stanlake, Ministry Director of First Stone Ministries in Oklahoma City, recounts her life story in "Sing Over Me." She describes growing up in a loving family but facing depression, sexual addiction, and the development of same-sex attraction following her mother’s illness and father’s death. A teacher’s encouragement and involvement in a supportive church community led her to faith in Christ, which she credits with gradually transforming her desires and bringing her hope, healing, and lasting change.

In this video testimony shared by First Stone Ministries, a woman recounts how childhood fear, depression, and grief over her father's death led her into same-sex attraction and a deeply consuming lesbian relationship. A pivotal moment came when Dennis Jernigan shared his testimony at church, which became her invitation to surrender to Christ. Now nearly a decade into marriage, she testifies that God is still changing her — and challenges the Church never to offer love without also offering the transforming power of the Gospel.

In “The Father Heals the Lesbian,” Maité Rodriguez recounts growing up in Puerto Rico without a father’s presence, facing unmet emotional needs and early sexual abuse. After a turbulent adolescence and broken marriage, Maité descended into addiction and a double life, struggling with her identity. A turning point came when she attended a Christian conference, experienced deep spiritual transformation, and began a journey to healing. Through faith, mentorship, and understanding God as a loving father, Maité found freedom, hope, and restored identity.

“Affirming Biblical Orthodoxy on Homosexuality as Sin” presents First Stone Ministries’ conviction that the Bible unambiguously identifies homosexual acts as sinful. The article contrasts historic Christian teaching with recent efforts to legitimize same-sex relationships within the Church. It urges believers to avoid adopting labels like “gay Christian” and instead embrace identity in Christ. Emphasizing compassion alongside biblical authority, the article warns against cultural compromise and underscores the spiritual, psychological, and social consequences of redefining sexual morality.

​In "The Gospel According to Jesus Christ and the 'Gay Christian?'," Stephen Black of First Stone Ministries argues that the concept of 'gay Christianity' is inconsistent with biblical teachings. He emphasizes that the gospel calls for repentance from all forms of sin, including homosexual behavior, and warns against teachings that suggest one can maintain a homosexual identity while being a faithful Christian. Black underscores the necessity of adhering to scriptural truths and cautions against adopting man-made theologies that, in his view, compromise the integrity of the gospel.

“Why Many Go Back: Giving Some Answers Why Defectors Embrace Homosexuality” analyzes reasons why certain individuals revert to homosexuality after professing change through Christian faith. First Stone Ministries contrasts those who remain steadfast in repentance with those who adopt a “Christian” gay identity. The article explores personal motivations, societal pressures, and theological confusion contributing to returns. It emphasizes the importance of spiritual vision and biblical conviction for lasting transformation, warning of cultural narratives that undermine perseverance in traditional Christian sexual ethics.

Andrew Franklin grew up feeling disconnected from his father and masculinity, eventually coming out as gay and moving to Manhattan where substance abuse and risky sexual behavior consumed his life. After hitting rock bottom and experiencing a profound encounter with Jesus Christ, Andrew returned to Oklahoma City and connected with First Stone Ministries. Through discipleship, accountability, and courageous obedience, he experienced genuine transformation — eventually joining First Stone's staff full-time, walking in freedom, and identifying as a heterosexual man restored by God's grace.

“Does God Hate Homosexuals?” by Dan Case addresses a common misconception, affirming that while God opposes homosexual acts, He deeply loves every individual, including those who experience same-sex attraction. The article distinguishes between condemning sin and loving people, stressing that no one is without hope or outside God’s grace. Emphasizing biblical teaching and compassion, First Stone Ministries offers support for those desiring change, presenting Jesus Christ as the source of forgiveness, healing, and new life.

“A Letter from Parents,” published by First Stone Ministries, presents the candid testimony of parents navigating their child’s homosexuality. The article recounts their emotional struggles—shock, grief, and confusion—while emphasizing their commitment to unconditional love and faithful prayer. Drawing strength from Scripture and biblical community, the parents ultimately discover hope, healing, and renewed trust in God’s promises. Their story serves as encouragement for other families, highlighting the possibility of restoration and transformation for loved ones through faith and compassionate Christian support.

“Changing Perspectives on Homosexuality” by First Stone Ministries explores how shifting cultural attitudes, media influence, and misinformation impact beliefs about homosexuality. The article contends that many popular views disregard biblical teachings and are shaped by social trends rather than scriptural truth. It emphasizes the importance of rejecting stereotypes, seeking wisdom, and maintaining compassion while remaining committed to the conviction that transformation and freedom are possible through faith in Christ. Readers are encouraged to pursue restored identity and hope through a Christian worldview.

“Hypothalamic Hypothesis” examines whether homosexuality has a biological origin, focusing on Simon LeVay’s study suggesting a brain structure difference in homosexual men. The article highlights the study’s small sample size and inconclusive results, emphasizing behavior’s potential effect on the brain. It argues that even if biological influences exist, Christian teaching and ministry response to homosexuality should remain consistent, valuing both truth and compassion. First Stone Ministries urges careful analysis of scientific claims and affirms ongoing hope for personal transformation.

Chris M. grew up with a distant father, leading to deep "father-hunger" that was sexualized through adolescence, molestation, and years of living a secret double life as a church musician. After cycles of emotional idolatry with male friends and growing desperation, his pastor connected him with First Stone Ministries, where transparency and love brought lasting freedom. Today Chris is married with children, testifying that what he always needed was not sexual connection with men, but a heavenly Father to make him whole.

In this Pure Passion episode shared by First Stone Ministries, Stephen Black recounts how an absent father and repeated childhood sexual abuse shaped his homosexual identity — and how surrender to Jesus Christ brought transformation and peace. Host David Kyle Foster explains the two most common causal factors in male homosexual confusion, while Andy Reese of the Freedom Resource offers encouragement that Satan's attacks target the very gifts God placed in each person — and that nothing can stop God's redemptive purposes in a surrendered life.

“Why I Won’t See Brokeback Mountain,” authored by Tim Wilkins for First Stone Ministries, addresses the widespread buzz around the acclaimed film while explaining the author’s personal and theological reasons for abstaining. Wilkins argues that consuming media normalizing homosexuality conflicts with his Christian faith and convictions. The article reflects on the cultural influence of entertainment, urging believers to prioritize biblical standards over popular trends. It encourages readers to be discerning about media choices, holding fast to scriptural truth and spiritual integrity.

“Jesus Speaks on Homosexuality” presents First Stone Ministries’ perspective on how Jesus addresses issues of sexuality. The article explains that while Jesus upholds biblical marriage and sexual morality, his teachings focus on love, mercy, and repentance. Readers are encouraged to avoid harsh condemnation and instead extend grace while upholding scriptural truth. The narrative discusses relational brokenness, the roots of homosexual behavior, and the hope for healing through Jesus. Compassionate pastoral care and biblical fidelity are emphasized throughout the message.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part I: Social Justice Arguments” addresses how social justice themes are used to advocate for LGBTQ inclusion within Christianity. The article critiques arguments that equate homosexuality with identity and victimization, and disputes the notion that sexual orientation cannot be changed. First Stone Ministries responds with biblical references, emphasizing compassion without affirming pro-gay theology. The piece urges readers to challenge social narratives while approaching all individuals with humility and love, reflecting a traditional Christian worldview.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part 2: Social Justice Arguments” examines religious justifications for homosexuality, such as the claim that Jesus never addressed it or that God’s presence in affirming churches signals His approval. The article argues these points rely on subjective experience rather than scriptural truth, stressing that God’s gifts are signs of grace, not automatic endorsement. First Stone Ministries urges returning to biblical authority, warning against prioritizing “niceness” or human understanding over clear scriptural boundaries and Christian conviction.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part 3: Scriptural Arguments” explores how advocates of pro-gay theology challenge traditional interpretations of Scripture regarding homosexuality. The article examines common revisionist arguments for Genesis, Sodom and Gomorrah, Levitical law, and Romans 1—contrasting them with historical Christian teaching. It critiques alternate readings as strained or inconsistent with textual and cultural evidence, defending the view that biblical references to marriage and sexual ethics consistently affirm heterosexual unions. The piece urges a return to traditional, contextual biblical interpretation.

“A Call to ‘Ex-Gays’ to Press Toward the Higher Mark” urges those leaving homosexuality not to quit in discouragement but to keep pressing toward spiritual maturity in Christ. The article acknowledges how lonely and difficult this journey can be, while warning against using present struggle as an excuse to give up. Instead, it calls readers to perseverance, holiness, and a higher goal rooted in Jesus, framing the Christian life as an ongoing pursuit rather than a finished achievement.

“What Would Jesus Say to Ellen?” presents First Stone Ministries’ reflection on how Jesus would respond to Ellen DeGeneres, a prominent figure in LGBTQ culture. The article asserts Jesus would approach Ellen with genuine compassion and love while upholding biblical teachings on sexuality and repentance. By referencing Scripture and the example of Jesus’ interactions with others, the piece encourages both truth and grace. It invites readers to consider the call to love individuals without compromising core Christian convictions or scriptural integrity.

“Ex-Gay: Fact, Fraud, or Fantasy” tackles the intense debate regarding whether sexual orientation can change and if “ex-gay” testimonies are genuine. The article highlights critics who claim the “ex-gay” label is fraudulent, rooted in the belief that homosexuality is innate and immutable. Contrasting these views, First Stone Ministries shares personal accounts and spiritual reflections supporting the possibility of transformation, emphasizing scriptural conviction. The piece invites readers to discuss faith, identity, and truth in a contested cultural landscape.

“My Child” addresses the emotional and spiritual journey of Christian parents whose child identifies as homosexual. The article acknowledges the intense feelings of grief, confusion, and disappointment parents may experience, while urging reliance on prayer, biblical truth, and God’s enduring love. It encourages maintaining open communication, showing unconditional support, and trusting in God’s power to work in their child’s life. First Stone Ministries offers compassionate wisdom, practical counsel, and hope for families seeking restoration and faith-filled perseverance amid difficult circumstances.

“Help, My Roommate’s Gay” addresses the challenges Christian individuals may face when discovering a roommate’s homosexuality. The article discusses initial emotional reactions—such as shock, confusion, or fear—and provides practical, scripturally-based counsel on responding with both conviction and compassion. First Stone Ministries emphasizes the importance of prayer, open communication, and setting healthy boundaries, while upholding biblical views on sexuality. The piece encourages believers to maintain Christlike love, avoid judgment, and seek God’s wisdom, all while expressing authentic faith in daily living.

The Christian married man bound by homosexuality bears a double burden. He lives under the power of a sin which brings self-condemnation and a feeling of alienation from God. He also lives with the knowledge that he is bringing a terrible hurt to another human being—his wife. But for this man, victory over homosexuality can bring a double blessing. He can be restored to full fellowship with God, and he can experience the joy of reconciliation with his wife.

Jim grew up without a father, was molested as a toddler, and never bonded with his masculinity — conditions that led him through decades of hidden struggle, a failed marriage, and two long-term gay relationships. After seven years away from God, a church homecoming became the turning point that brought him to his knees. Through First Stone Ministries and a walk of faith and obedience, Jim experienced restoration — including a reconciled marriage — and emerged a transformed man in Christ.

Jan Jordan's testimony traces a life marked by failed marriages, abortion, financial loss, and a 15-year lesbian relationship that left her suicidal and without hope. After years of observing the genuine faith of a Christian coworker named Joan, Jan surrendered her life to Jesus Christ and experienced profound deliverance from decades of bondage. Her story concludes with restored relationships with her parents before their deaths and a hard-won peace she had spent her entire life searching for.

“Is There a Gay Gene?” reviews prominent genetic studies, such as the Human Genome Project and twin research, concluding there is no conclusive evidence that homosexuality is caused by genetics alone. The article explains how media coverage often exaggerates scientific findings and clarifies that respected researchers attribute sexual orientation to a complex interplay of genetic, psychological, and social factors. First Stone Ministries advocates for a Christian understanding, emphasizing that sexual orientation is not immutable or predetermined by one’s genes.

In this joint testimony, Dennis Jernigan shares how childhood feelings of rejection and a distorted view of his earthly father led him into homosexuality. After a profound encounter with Jesus Christ in 1981, Dennis experienced lasting transformation and eventually went public with his story, sparking healing in others. His wife Melinda shares her own journey of insecurity and restored identity in Christ. Together, they offer practical, scripture-based guidance for overcoming sin through surrender, accountability, worship, and the Father's unconditional love.

“Questions I’m Asked Most About Homosexuality” provides straightforward responses to common inquiries on the topic. The article explores whether homosexuality is innate or the result of nurture, discusses if change is possible, and examines both biblical and cultural debates surrounding sexual orientation. By sharing ministry experiences and referencing Scripture, the piece offers guidance on recovery, compassion towards homosexually-oriented individuals, and personal responsibility. First Stone Ministries presents a traditional Christian framework, encouraging respectful engagement and practical support for those seeking answers.

“Unhealthy Relationships Among Women and the Journey to Freedom” examines how women’s friendships can drift into emotional dependency or inappropriate intensity, often rooted in unmet childhood needs or relational wounds. The article uses real-life examples to illustrate how exclusivity and boundary issues develop. Practical, faith-based steps are offered for recognizing unhealthy dynamics, seeking support, grieving losses, and establishing new relational limits. Emphasizing God’s desire for healthy connections, the piece encourages honesty, spiritual growth, and a journey toward relational wholeness.

“Justice & Respect” by Bob Davies addresses how churches should respond to homosexuality with both truth and empathy. Davies shares practical insights for pastors, emphasizing the need to offer hope, listen well, and address underlying emotional hurts rather than merely focusing on outward behavior. He recounts experiences of healing, highlights the role of childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs, and encourages churches to foster compassion, affirming God’s power to transform lives while maintaining biblical convictions and genuine respect.

Excerpted from Coming Out of Homosexuality by Bob Davies and Lori Rentzel, this article shared by First Stone Ministries traces the developmental factors that contribute to homosexual and lesbian identity across key life stages — from infant bonding and family dynamics to grade school peer pressure, sexual abuse, puberty, and early adulthood. Rejecting the idea that homosexuality is genetically determined, the authors present a compassionate, stage-by-stage framework for understanding same-sex attraction and the roots that can be addressed through healing and faith.

“Seven Things I Wish Pro-Gay People Would Admit” outlines candid points from the ex-gay community, urging acknowledgment that not all who experience same-sex attraction are content, that change—though incomplete for many—is possible, and that former homosexuals often find joy and peace in heterosexual marriages. The article contends that choosing a heterosexual path is a legitimate right, asks for respect instead of labels, and challenges the authenticity of pro-gay religious endorsements, aiming to invite honest discussion about sexuality and faith.

“Are You Still in the Desert?” explores the spiritual parallels between the Israelites wandering in the wilderness and Christians who feel stuck, especially those struggling with unwanted desires or spiritual dryness. The article highlights signs of being “in the desert”—such as ingratitude, negativity, lack of vision, and fear—and offers practical biblical solutions. Through gratitude, setting spiritual goals, and relying on God’s strength, believers can move beyond discouragement, overcome old patterns, and enter the “Promised Land” of deeper faith and freedom.

“Homosexuals and the Church” discusses the essential role of the church in ministering to individuals with same-sex attraction. Through stories of transformation and expert commentary, Bob Davies highlights the need for love, support, and accountability for those seeking change. The article warns against silence or condemnation, urging congregations to offer practical help, build strong relationships, and foster an atmosphere of grace and truth. Compassion, scriptural faithfulness, and community support are vital for lasting healing and spiritual growth.

In this article, First Stone Ministries' Jeff Janes confronts the harsh, dismissive language Christians often use toward homosexuals — language he describes as a form of ritual sacrifice that destroys rather than redeems. Drawing on Micah 6:8, Matthew 9 and 22, and Hebrews 2, Janes calls the Church to replace self-righteous condemnation with the mercy, gentleness, and love of Christ. He argues that homosexuality is rooted in unmet relational needs — "father hunger" — and that genuine healing comes through compassionate, Christ-centered discipleship.

“Offering Hope to Homosexuals” explores the Christian perspective on homosexuality, stating that while the Bible condemns homosexual acts, it also offers hope for lasting change through faith in Jesus Christ. The article addresses common questions, myths, and misconceptions about homosexuality, discusses causes, and highlights the importance of compassion—not condemnation—for those struggling. It affirms that individuals can experience cleansing, sanctification, and a new identity in Christ, calling churches to provide grace, support, and biblically rooted hope.

“When Someone You Love Is Gay” addresses the emotional impact and confusion families face after learning a loved one is gay. It likens the discovery to grief, describing shock, guilt, anger, and loss. The article provides practical steps—controlling emotions, forgiving, maintaining communication, demonstrating love, letting go, praying, and seeking God’s perspective—offering hope for both family and the gay individual. The message emphasizes God’s ability to heal, transform, and work through even the hardest circumstances, encouraging faith-filled, loving responses.

Chuck McConkey's testimony traces a journey from divorce, alcoholism, and homosexuality to complete transformation in Jesus Christ. After being rejected by his church and spending years seeking love through same-sex encounters and alcohol, Chuck found temporary acceptance in the Metropolitan Community Church — but continued to sense something was missing. Through Restoration Outreach ministry, he discovered he had a genuine choice. Today Chuck lives as a new creation — married, a father of two, and ministering freedom to others still trapped in homosexuality.

“Can Homosexuals Change?” reviews psychiatric and psychological opinions, presenting evidence that homosexuality is not genetically predetermined and can be changed. The article shares expert views—such as John Money, Charles Socarides, and Masters & Johnson—on the learned nature of homosexuality and the effectiveness of therapy. It references studies showing that motivated individuals may experience behavioral, identity, or orientation shifts, without psychological harm. The message: change is possible through personal choice, professional help, and spiritual commitment for those who desire it.

Steven Hunt grew up raised by his grandparents in California, where early sexual abuse by an older cousin, hurtful labels, and unmet needs for fatherly affirmation set him on a path of homosexuality and promiscuity. After a dramatic conversion at 19 and a courageous escape from a controlling partner, Steven's journey toward freedom included Desert Stream Ministries, relocation to Oklahoma, and eventually marriage. Employed by First Stone Ministries until his death from AIDS-related complications, Steven's life testified to healing as a lifelong, worthwhile process.

Michael Babb grew up without a father, developing deep insecurity and same-sex attraction that followed him through two marriages and a secret emotional and sexual relationship with a man. Consumed by depression, guilt, and thoughts of suicide, a providential phone call broke through his silence. After moving to Oklahoma City and connecting with First Stone Ministries, Michael found genuine healing through an intimate relationship with Jesus — no longer identifying as gay and walking in freedom with a restored marriage.

Stephen Black's testimony traces a journey from childhood molestation and early exposure to pornography through years of homosexual relationships, depression, and suicidal thoughts. After his little brother's death and a series of divine interventions, Stephen surrendered his life to Jesus Christ on February 6, 1983. Through pastoral discipleship, healing from sexual abuse, and complete surrender to Christ, he found lasting freedom — eventually marrying Robin, becoming a father, and dedicating his life to ministering that same freedom to others through First Stone Ministries.

Bob Davies spent decades hiding same-sex attraction behind Christian service — Bible school, missions work, and ministry involvement — before finally surrendering his struggle to God and joining Love In Action near San Francisco. Through accountability, honest confession, same-sex affirmation, and the unconditional love of his church community, Bob experienced deep healing. His story culminates in a God-directed marriage to Pam, whose prayers for her future husband began the very month Bob yielded his sexual struggles to the Lord.

David Kyle Foster's testimony is one of the most dramatic shared through First Stone Ministries. Raised by a stern, emotionally distant father, David's pain drove him through suicide attempts, years of male prostitution on Sunset Boulevard, a stint as a film actor, and involvement in a false religious cult. After supernatural encounters with God's love — culminating in salvation at the Garden of Gethsemane — David experienced complete transformation and eventually founded Mastering Life Ministries, dedicating his life to bringing sexual healing to others.

Laura Leigh Stanlake, Director of Women's Ministries at First Stone Ministries, shares her journey from childhood sexual brokenness and years of hidden shame to a genuine encounter with Jesus Christ. After falling into a consuming lesbian relationship, she felt powerless to leave, a testimony shared at church became the turning point of her life. Through confession, counseling, and biblical community, Laura experienced lasting freedom — learning to trust Jesus as her true source of identity, healing, and contentment.

Stephen Black's testimony recounts a childhood marked by sexual abuse, exposure to pornography, and confusion that led him into a homosexual lifestyle. After years of depression, guilt, and broken relationships, he surrendered his life to Jesus Christ in 1983 and experienced profound transformation. Black argues that homosexuality is rooted in childhood experience rather than genetics, and concludes that lasting freedom comes only through genuine repentance, faith in Christ, and grounding in the Word of God.

“Todd’s Greatest Regret” recounts the moving story of Todd Neese, whose dying wish was to warn others after facing AIDS and profound sorrow for not honoring his parents or listening to God. Ministered by Stephen Black, Todd’s final weeks included testimony about forgiveness, faith, and hope in eternal life. His story, shared through videos and his mother’s reflection, encourages readers to seek reconciliation, cherish family, and embrace God’s grace before it’s too late, leaving a legacy of warning and hope.