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Laura Smalts argues that using preferred pronouns contrary to biological sex conflicts with God’s intentional design of male and female in creation. She highlights purposes for sex distinctions—fruitfulness, complementary gifting, and whole‑body sexual differentiation—alongside research on the brain’s rapid recognition of sex. Smalts contends affirming cross‑sex identity harms truth and obscures God’s glory reflected differently in men and women. Practically, she advises kindness, restraint with pronouns, using given names cautiously, asking questions like Jesus, and prioritizing respectful, gospel‑centered conversations.

“Parents, Prodigals, and Holidays” offers biblical encouragement for navigating grief, strained relationships, and prodigal children during the season. Drawing from verses like Isaiah 46:9, Nehemiah 8:10, Psalm 147:3, and Habakkuk 3:17-19, it urges believers to anchor joy and strength in God’s sovereignty and past works. Practical steps—gratitude journaling, intentional prayer, worship, Scripture meditation, and sharing testimonies—help refocus hearts on His goodness. By recalling His provision and promises, Christians can experience renewed hope, peace, and celebration, even in painful seasons.

This powerful reflection shares a mother’s experience as her son transitions to a female identity, revealing layers of grief, fear, guilt, and unwavering love. She describes the emotional toll, family tensions, and spiritual wrestling while holding fast to her faith and hope in God’s redemption. With honesty and compassion, she navigates the pressure to accept or reject, choosing instead to trust God’s timing and truth. Her story offers comfort and solidarity to parents facing similar journeys.

“Keeping the Conversation Open with Your Child” equips Christian parents to respond biblically and with compassion when a child shares life choices that conflict with their faith. Offering practical and spiritual guidance—asking forgiveness for reactive words, praying for humility, processing grief, guarding against idolatry, and leaning on God’s Word—it encourages maintaining respectful dialogue while trusting the Holy Spirit’s work. Through patience, emotional honesty, community support, and reliance on God’s promises, parents can preserve connection, witness faithfully, and grow spiritually in challenging seasons.

Host Garry Ingraham talks with guest Laura Leigh Stanlake.

“Preferred Pronouns: Responding with Faithfulness and Humility” addresses the growing tension for Christians when asked to use pronouns contrary to biblical beliefs. The article emphasizes God as Creator, the role of truth-telling, and the importance of loving engagement without compromising faith. It explores motivations, real-life scenarios, and the necessity of courage, humility, and trust in God when facing relational and societal pressures. Readers are encouraged to balance compassion with conviction and to trust God with the outcomes of faithful obedience.

First Stone Ministries highlights two key resources on homosexuality from complementary perspectives. Stephen Black's Freedom Realized draws on his personal journey and decades of ministry to offer a biblically grounded path to freedom from homosexuality and gay identity labels. Jeffrey Satinover's Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth brings a scientific and psychological lens, examining how political forces have shaped public understanding of homosexuality while making a compelling case for the possibility of genuine change.

Differing Views on Christianity, Identity and Homosexuality where there is an onslaught of the promotion of "gay Christianity" in the Church today. The differing view chart reveals the differences in belief and approach and is helpful for those who need to understand and be warned of those who promote false teaching, or lacking in fullness for HOPE.

“Practical Ways to Minister to the Sexually Broken: Special Edition” features Stephen Black and Laura Leigh Stanlake—experienced leaders from First Stone Ministries—offering practical Christian strategies for ministering to those dealing with homosexuality, transgenderism, pornography, and sexual addiction. The resource covers key topics including common causes of sexual struggles, the importance of biblical identity, and refuting theological errors within the “gay Christian” movement. It encourages churches and caregivers to offer compassionate, truth-centered support, enabling lasting freedom and spiritual wholeness through faith.

“Dangerous Affirmation: The Threat of ‘Gay Christianity’” by M.D. Perkins exposes how efforts to reconcile Christian faith with homosexuality are reshaping theology, biblical interpretation, and church life. The book reveals strategies used by LGBT activists—rethinking doctrine, identity, and the meaning of church—to influence even conservative congregations. Perkins aims to equip believers with biblical clarity, urging steadfastness amid shifting values and controversial teachings. The message calls Christians to recognize spiritual challenges and respond with conviction, compassion, and commitment to God’s Word.

A curated reading list for parents and family members of those navigating same-sex attraction or sexual brokenness.

A curated reading list for spouses.

This focused reading list from First Stone Ministries addresses the deep wounds of sexual sin and childhood sexual abuse, offering resources for survivors, those struggling with sexual brokenness, and those involved in restoration and justice. Authors include David Kyle Foster, Dan Allender, Frank Peretti, and Mark Yantzi. Together these titles provide both emotional and biblical grounding — equipping individuals, counselors, and support groups with the tools needed for honest, lasting healing and restoration.

After the ruling of the Supreme Court on June 26, 2015 Laura Leigh Stanlake, Director of Women's Ministries attended a local church service where a pastor gave a message in responding to so-called "gay marriage". There was a problem! Homosexual identity and Christianity were being integrated as one legitimate identity-- a "gay Christian" identity. Laura responded with this article in the Winter 2015 First Stone Newsletter.

First Stone Ministries’ article explains their departure from Exodus International, citing theological and leadership shifts in Exodus that conflicted with biblical convictions. Choosing to resign in 2012, First Stone joined the newly formed Restored Hope Network, a coalition dedicated to traditional Christian sexual ethics and transformational ministry. The piece affirms their ongoing mission: proclaiming freedom from unwanted same-sex attractions through Christ, providing a safe and supportive environment, and collaborating with like-minded ministries to equip the church and serve those seeking healing.

In “Everyone Needs This Ministry – A Letter from a Pastor,” ordained minister Jason Murray endorses First Stone Ministries for its unwavering biblical fidelity and compassionate outreach to the broken. He recounts personal transformation through their confidential, Scripture-based counseling and leadership. The ministry enabled growth in grace and holiness, providing what Murray’s pastorate alone could not. After years engaged with First Stone, he urges all Christians to know and support ministries like this for genuine healing and maturity.

In this article, Stephen Black calls on Church leaders to reject the growing trend of affirming "gay Christian" identities and same-sex attraction as legitimate orientations. He argues that genuine love requires both mercy and justice — not compromise — and that true grace is always transformational. Drawing on Scripture and the example of Christ, Black warns that embracing cheap grace theology ultimately harms the very people the Church claims to love, leaving them in spiritual bondage rather than leading them to freedom.

“Why Many Go Back: Giving Some Answers Why Defectors Embrace Homosexuality” analyzes reasons why certain individuals revert to homosexuality after professing change through Christian faith. First Stone Ministries contrasts those who remain steadfast in repentance with those who adopt a “Christian” gay identity. The article explores personal motivations, societal pressures, and theological confusion contributing to returns. It emphasizes the importance of spiritual vision and biblical conviction for lasting transformation, warning of cultural narratives that undermine perseverance in traditional Christian sexual ethics.

“Does God Hate Homosexuals?” by Dan Case addresses a common misconception, affirming that while God opposes homosexual acts, He deeply loves every individual, including those who experience same-sex attraction. The article distinguishes between condemning sin and loving people, stressing that no one is without hope or outside God’s grace. Emphasizing biblical teaching and compassion, First Stone Ministries offers support for those desiring change, presenting Jesus Christ as the source of forgiveness, healing, and new life.

Steve Gallagher of Pure Life Ministries examines the strategic blueprint laid out in "After the Ball" by Marshall Kirk and Hunter Madsen, which outlined a three-step psychological campaign to shift public opinion on homosexuality through desensitization, discrediting opponents, and media-driven conversion. The article traces how this strategy has been successfully implemented through television, film, mainline church infiltration, and hate crimes legislation — arguing that the ultimate goal is the complete silencing of Christian voices that uphold a biblical view of sexuality.

“A Letter from Parents,” published by First Stone Ministries, presents the candid testimony of parents navigating their child’s homosexuality. The article recounts their emotional struggles—shock, grief, and confusion—while emphasizing their commitment to unconditional love and faithful prayer. Drawing strength from Scripture and biblical community, the parents ultimately discover hope, healing, and renewed trust in God’s promises. Their story serves as encouragement for other families, highlighting the possibility of restoration and transformation for loved ones through faith and compassionate Christian support.

“Why They Fall” discusses the tragic reality of spiritual and moral failures among Christian leaders and believers. The article explores how hidden sin, pride, neglect of spiritual disciplines, and a lack of accountability lead to public scandals and personal breakdowns. Drawing on biblical principles, First Stone Ministries urges transparency, repentance, and humble reliance on God’s grace as safeguards against stumbling. The piece encourages individuals and churches to foster honest community, diligent prayer, and unwavering commitment to Jesus for enduring faithfulness.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part I: Social Justice Arguments” addresses how social justice themes are used to advocate for LGBTQ inclusion within Christianity. The article critiques arguments that equate homosexuality with identity and victimization, and disputes the notion that sexual orientation cannot be changed. First Stone Ministries responds with biblical references, emphasizing compassion without affirming pro-gay theology. The piece urges readers to challenge social narratives while approaching all individuals with humility and love, reflecting a traditional Christian worldview.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part 2: Social Justice Arguments” examines religious justifications for homosexuality, such as the claim that Jesus never addressed it or that God’s presence in affirming churches signals His approval. The article argues these points rely on subjective experience rather than scriptural truth, stressing that God’s gifts are signs of grace, not automatic endorsement. First Stone Ministries urges returning to biblical authority, warning against prioritizing “niceness” or human understanding over clear scriptural boundaries and Christian conviction.

“Responding to Pro-Gay Theology, Part 3: Scriptural Arguments” explores how advocates of pro-gay theology challenge traditional interpretations of Scripture regarding homosexuality. The article examines common revisionist arguments for Genesis, Sodom and Gomorrah, Levitical law, and Romans 1—contrasting them with historical Christian teaching. It critiques alternate readings as strained or inconsistent with textual and cultural evidence, defending the view that biblical references to marriage and sexual ethics consistently affirm heterosexual unions. The piece urges a return to traditional, contextual biblical interpretation.

“What Would Jesus Say to Ellen?” presents First Stone Ministries’ reflection on how Jesus would respond to Ellen DeGeneres, a prominent figure in LGBTQ culture. The article asserts Jesus would approach Ellen with genuine compassion and love while upholding biblical teachings on sexuality and repentance. By referencing Scripture and the example of Jesus’ interactions with others, the piece encourages both truth and grace. It invites readers to consider the call to love individuals without compromising core Christian convictions or scriptural integrity.

“My Child” addresses the emotional and spiritual journey of Christian parents whose child identifies as homosexual. The article acknowledges the intense feelings of grief, confusion, and disappointment parents may experience, while urging reliance on prayer, biblical truth, and God’s enduring love. It encourages maintaining open communication, showing unconditional support, and trusting in God’s power to work in their child’s life. First Stone Ministries offers compassionate wisdom, practical counsel, and hope for families seeking restoration and faith-filled perseverance amid difficult circumstances.

“Help, My Roommate’s Gay” addresses the challenges Christian individuals may face when discovering a roommate’s homosexuality. The article discusses initial emotional reactions—such as shock, confusion, or fear—and provides practical, scripturally-based counsel on responding with both conviction and compassion. First Stone Ministries emphasizes the importance of prayer, open communication, and setting healthy boundaries, while upholding biblical views on sexuality. The piece encourages believers to maintain Christlike love, avoid judgment, and seek God’s wisdom, all while expressing authentic faith in daily living.

“Cruel Joke or Medical Anomaly?” challenges the idea that homosexuality is a physiological or divinely intended variation. Wilkins argues that human anatomy is universally designed for heterosexual expression and contends that if homosexuality were natural, physiological contradictions would not exist. The article explores theological and medical perspectives, stating that labeling homosexuality as “natural” either implies a cruel joke by God or a medical anomaly. Ultimately, sin and redemption through Christ are presented as the answer for all humanity.

“Is There a Gay Gene?” reviews prominent genetic studies, such as the Human Genome Project and twin research, concluding there is no conclusive evidence that homosexuality is caused by genetics alone. The article explains how media coverage often exaggerates scientific findings and clarifies that respected researchers attribute sexual orientation to a complex interplay of genetic, psychological, and social factors. First Stone Ministries advocates for a Christian understanding, emphasizing that sexual orientation is not immutable or predetermined by one’s genes.

“What is a Biblical View of Transgendered People and Hermaphrodites?” by Sue Bohlin addresses two distinct issues: transgender identity and intersex conditions (hermaphroditism). The article presents First Stone Ministries’ view that God’s intent is for males and females to embrace their biological sex, citing Genesis as foundational. It differentiates between transgender experience and medical intersex conditions, while emphasizing compassion for all people. The message encourages understanding, biblical fidelity, and loving support for those wrestling with gender identity or biological anomalies.

In “Crisis in Leadership,” Jack Frost reflects on how leaders often face intensified spiritual opposition in seasons of transition or influence. He identifies core areas where attacks commonly occur—like unresolved sin, relational discord, or pride—and emphasizes the importance of spiritual health, prayer, and community support. Frost encourages leaders to anchor in the Father’s love, maintain integrity with authority structures, and engage in confession and unity. Through deep discipleship and alignment with God’s purpose, leaders can endure and thrive amid crisis.

“The Ten Commandments of Deaf Culture” presents ten foundational guidelines for non-Deaf individuals engaging in Deaf spaces. These commandments urge respect for Deaf culture—avoiding imposition of hearing norms, focusing on eye contact, consistent sign language use, and never treating Deaf individuals as handicapped or incapable. Additional points include refraining from roles like speech therapist or grammar teacher, viewing Deaf as an ethnic group, and affirming that Deaf individuals can accomplish anything through Christ. The article promotes dignity, equality, and genuine cultural understanding.

“Questions I’m Asked Most About Homosexuality” provides straightforward responses to common inquiries on the topic. The article explores whether homosexuality is innate or the result of nurture, discusses if change is possible, and examines both biblical and cultural debates surrounding sexual orientation. By sharing ministry experiences and referencing Scripture, the piece offers guidance on recovery, compassion towards homosexually-oriented individuals, and personal responsibility. First Stone Ministries presents a traditional Christian framework, encouraging respectful engagement and practical support for those seeking answers.

“Justice & Respect” by Bob Davies addresses how churches should respond to homosexuality with both truth and empathy. Davies shares practical insights for pastors, emphasizing the need to offer hope, listen well, and address underlying emotional hurts rather than merely focusing on outward behavior. He recounts experiences of healing, highlights the role of childhood trauma and unmet emotional needs, and encourages churches to foster compassion, affirming God’s power to transform lives while maintaining biblical convictions and genuine respect.

“A Model for Hurting Parents” explores how the biblical story of the prodigal son provides crucial lessons for Christian parents whose children have strayed. The article acknowledges the deep pain of parental rejection and loss, yet encourages modeling God’s love, relentless grace, and readiness to forgive. It reminds parents that children’s choices do not always reflect parental failure. By maintaining unconditional love, compassion, and forgiveness—even while hurting—parents mirror God’s heart, creating an atmosphere where restoration and hope are always possible.

“Homosexuals and the Church” discusses the essential role of the church in ministering to individuals with same-sex attraction. Through stories of transformation and expert commentary, Bob Davies highlights the need for love, support, and accountability for those seeking change. The article warns against silence or condemnation, urging congregations to offer practical help, build strong relationships, and foster an atmosphere of grace and truth. Compassion, scriptural faithfulness, and community support are vital for lasting healing and spiritual growth.

In this article, First Stone Ministries' Jeff Janes confronts the harsh, dismissive language Christians often use toward homosexuals — language he describes as a form of ritual sacrifice that destroys rather than redeems. Drawing on Micah 6:8, Matthew 9 and 22, and Hebrews 2, Janes calls the Church to replace self-righteous condemnation with the mercy, gentleness, and love of Christ. He argues that homosexuality is rooted in unmet relational needs — "father hunger" — and that genuine healing comes through compassionate, Christ-centered discipleship.

“When Someone You Love Is Gay” addresses the emotional impact and confusion families face after learning a loved one is gay. It likens the discovery to grief, describing shock, guilt, anger, and loss. The article provides practical steps—controlling emotions, forgiving, maintaining communication, demonstrating love, letting go, praying, and seeking God’s perspective—offering hope for both family and the gay individual. The message emphasizes God’s ability to heal, transform, and work through even the hardest circumstances, encouraging faith-filled, loving responses.