In this video testimony posted by First Stone Ministries, Stephen Black recounts how childhood victimization and adolescent experiences led him into a homosexual lifestyle marked by compulsion and confusion. Drawing from his personal journey, Stephen describes how faith in Jesus Christ brought genuine transformation and freedom. His testimony serves as a message of hope for those struggling with unwanted same-sex attraction, pointing to the power of the Gospel to heal and restore a life of holiness.
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2026 Summer Newsletter
The Summer 2026 First Stone Ministries newsletter centers on the theme of idolatry and inner child work. Women's Minister Bronwyn Welch offers a biblically grounded call to wholehearted devotion, warning against the subtle ways idols compete for our hearts. Office Administrator Joseph Thiessen shares a vulnerable personal account of reconnecting with his wounded childhood self through Husband Material Academy. Director Laura Leigh Stanlake contributes a warm anniversary reflection honoring 33 years of ministry and the many faithful people who shaped First Stone's story.
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Fifty Years of Faithfulness
In this heartfelt reflection, First Stone Ministries Director Laura Leigh Stanlake looks back on 33 years of ministry — from her introduction to Jeff Janes at a wedding to joining staff full-time in 1997. She honors the many staff members and volunteers whose unique gifts shaped the ministry's culture of honesty, hospitality, and healing. Laura's reflection is a tribute to community as the vehicle God consistently uses to bring hurting people into His presence and toward restoration.
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Regaining the Lost Voice of my Childhood
In this personal reflection shared by First Stone Ministries, Joseph Thiessen describes his journey through Husband Material Academy — a men's ministry program built around emotional healing rather than accountability alone. Through exercises like meeting his childhood self in imagination, writing blessing letters, and spending intentional time reconnecting with the boy he once was, Joseph began to recover a voice that had long been silent. He describes it as the most intentionally healing experience he has ever encountered.
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What Competes for Our Hearts? The Trouble of Idols
In this biblically rich article from First Stone Ministries, the author explores how idolatry — loving anything more than God — divides our allegiance and draws our hearts away from Him. Using passages from the Psalms, Isaiah, the Gospels, and the letters of Paul, the piece calls readers to honestly examine what they seek for comfort, approval, control, or security apart from God. The answer is not mere self-improvement, but wholehearted repentance and a full return to the Lord.
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What is Changing, and Why
Marking 50 years of ministry, First Stone Ministries announces a thoughtful evolution in how it communicates and ministers. While remaining firmly grounded in biblical conviction and the belief that healing is found in Jesus Christ alone, the ministry is adopting warmer, more accessible language, refreshing its website, and shifting internally toward Scripture-based identity formation rather than self-assessment. The goal is clear — to meet people where they are, welcome their whole story, and walk with them patiently toward freedom and wholeness in Christ.
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Holding Love and Truth When It’s Challenging
In this thoughtful article from First Stone Ministries, the author — a parent personally navigating a child's gender identity questions — examines how cultural pressure has redefined empathy as agreement rather than understanding. Drawing on Romans 1, 1 Corinthians 13, and the cautionary example of Aaron, the piece calls believers to hold love and truth together without yielding to coercive demands. True empathy, the author concludes, does not affirm what is contrary to God's will — it points people to Jesus.
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The Problem with Unforgiveness
“The Problem with Unforgiveness” warns that refusing to forgive carries severe spiritual consequences, as Jesus teaches in Matthew 6:14–15. Unforgiveness blocks prayer, fosters spiritual dryness, opens doors to the enemy, and reflects a graceless heart. Drawing from Acts 8:22–23 and June Hunt’s Forgiveness, the article details harmful traits—bitterness, pride, judgment, vengefulness—that poison relationships with God and others. By contrast, forgiveness reflects God’s nature, breaks captivity to sin, and restores freedom, intimacy, and spiritual vitality in the believer’s life.
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The Great Pronoun Debate: Should I Use Someone’s Preferred Pronouns?
Laura Smalts argues that using preferred pronouns contrary to biological sex conflicts with God’s intentional design of male and female in creation. She highlights purposes for sex distinctions—fruitfulness, complementary gifting, and whole‑body sexual differentiation—alongside research on the brain’s rapid recognition of sex. Smalts contends affirming cross‑sex identity harms truth and obscures God’s glory reflected differently in men and women. Practically, she advises kindness, restraint with pronouns, using given names cautiously, asking questions like Jesus, and prioritizing respectful, gospel‑centered conversations.
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Testimonies on YouTube
Curated testimonies on our YouTube channel. We hope you are blessed by these.
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Porn & Sex are Women's Issues Too!
Host Garry Ingraham talks with guest Laura Leigh Stanlake.
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2016
The Word of God Comes to Save Us
In this January 2016 message shared at Abundant Grace Community Church in Gainesville, Florida, ordained minister Stephen Black draws on his personal testimony to explore how the Word of God brings salvation and transformation. Grounding his message in key scriptures — including Psalm 107:20, Mark 4:1–20, and 1 Peter 1:21–23 — Black reflects on the saving and healing power of Scripture, particularly for those seeking freedom from homosexuality and sexual brokenness through faith in Jesus Christ.
Jun 18
2015
So-Called Gay Marriage is No Marriage at All
In his article "So-Called 'Gay Marriage' is No Marriage at All," Stephen Black of First Stone Ministries argues that attending same-sex weddings implies endorsement of unions he believes are contrary to biblical teachings. He contends that such ceremonies represent "defiling covenants" and advises Christians to refrain from participation to maintain their faith's integrity.
In this article, Stephen Black calls on Church leaders to reject the growing trend of affirming "gay Christian" identities and same-sex attraction as legitimate orientations. He argues that genuine love requires both mercy and justice — not compromise — and that true grace is always transformational. Drawing on Scripture and the example of Christ, Black warns that embracing cheap grace theology ultimately harms the very people the Church claims to love, leaving them in spiritual bondage rather than leading them to freedom.
In "The Gospel According to Jesus Christ and the 'Gay Christian?'," Stephen Black of First Stone Ministries argues that the concept of 'gay Christianity' is inconsistent with biblical teachings. He emphasizes that the gospel calls for repentance from all forms of sin, including homosexual behavior, and warns against teachings that suggest one can maintain a homosexual identity while being a faithful Christian. Black underscores the necessity of adhering to scriptural truths and cautions against adopting man-made theologies that, in his view, compromise the integrity of the gospel.
“Why Many Go Back: Giving Some Answers Why Defectors Embrace Homosexuality” analyzes reasons why certain individuals revert to homosexuality after professing change through Christian faith. First Stone Ministries contrasts those who remain steadfast in repentance with those who adopt a “Christian” gay identity. The article explores personal motivations, societal pressures, and theological confusion contributing to returns. It emphasizes the importance of spiritual vision and biblical conviction for lasting transformation, warning of cultural narratives that undermine perseverance in traditional Christian sexual ethics.
Jan 17
2010
Weapons of Spiritual Warfare
“Weapons of Spiritual Warfare,” compiled by Stephen Black for First Stone Ministries, teaches believers how to effectively combat spiritual opposition using God-given resources. Drawing from passages like 2 Corinthians 10 and 1 Peter 5, the article highlights core tools: relying on God’s Word, using prayer, operating in the gifts of the Holy Spirit, and demonstrating love. It encourages memorizing Scripture, standing firm in faith, and leveraging spiritual gifts for protection, healing, and Christlike victory over every trial and attack.
Jun 29
2007
Fading Faces - Voices of Healing
This article from First Stone Ministries puts human faces to the ministry's work, sharing brief testimonies from men and women whose lives were shaped by childhood sexual abuse, neglect, and identity confusion. From Steven and Stephen to Kim, Linda, and others, each story reflects a common thread — wounds that followed children into adulthood. Through discipleship, Living Waters, and the Father heart of God, First Stone walks alongside these individuals as Jesus heals what was broken and restores what was lost.
Dec 20
2006
Why They Fall
“Why They Fall” discusses the tragic reality of spiritual and moral failures among Christian leaders and believers. The article explores how hidden sin, pride, neglect of spiritual disciplines, and a lack of accountability lead to public scandals and personal breakdowns. Drawing on biblical principles, First Stone Ministries urges transparency, repentance, and humble reliance on God’s grace as safeguards against stumbling. The piece encourages individuals and churches to foster honest community, diligent prayer, and unwavering commitment to Jesus for enduring faithfulness.
Jun 20
2005
Homosexuality & Healing of Sexual Abuse
In this Pure Passion episode shared by First Stone Ministries, Stephen Black recounts how an absent father and repeated childhood sexual abuse shaped his homosexual identity — and how surrender to Jesus Christ brought transformation and peace. Host David Kyle Foster explains the two most common causal factors in male homosexual confusion, while Andy Reese of the Freedom Resource offers encouragement that Satan's attacks target the very gifts God placed in each person — and that nothing can stop God's redemptive purposes in a surrendered life.